12 WAYS TO DEVELOP A POSITIVE SELF-IMAGE

by Avnie Garg, Freelance Contributor

Self-image is the way you perceive yourself. It is independent of what people think about you. A positive self-image is a pre-requisite to a successful life. Practice the following ways to view yourself in a positive light:-

  1. Discover your inner strengths 

 

Inner strengths consist of will power, concentration level, self- discipline, peace of mind, mental resilience. Try exploring them by indulging in challenging activities, practicing mindfulness, doing unusual tasks or deviating from the routine. Once you acquaint yourself with your inner strengths, you’ll experience a positive self-image which will bolster your confidence.

 

  1. Accept yourself

    You need to accept yourself the way you are. As a human you, like everyone else, have a set of both strengths and weaknesses. You may have succeeded in some situations and failed in others. Realize that all these situations in life eventually made you a better person. So shun the need to be like others and accept yourself in every way

3. Visualize yourself victorious

 

Stand in front of the mirror and imagine yourself emerging as a champion in a specific activity you are going to take part in or generally in life. These positive visualizations will enhance your positive self-image as you will ultimately find these visualizations take the shape of reality.

  1. Pamper yourself

    Accept it or not, you experience a sense of inflated self-image when you dress up nicely. So pamper yourself with good clothes, nice hair style and the accessories you like because just thinking that you look good gives a necessary boost to your self-image.

  1. Do what interests you  

find some time to do the things that interest you. If you were good at something but did not pursue it then, then go for it now. Indulging in the activities that you like makes you feel happy and worthwhile. You are never too busy to find time for your hobbies. You are never too old to follow your passion.

6. Avoid taking blame for others’ faults

Do not be a scapegoat i.e. do not take responsibility for the wrong doings of others. It can cause negative emotions such as fear, anxiety, grief, insecurity etc. Expose the abuser if you are being made an easy target by someone covertly. Thus to avoid personal costs do not fall into the trap of scapegoating.

7. Make affirmations

Practice daily affirmations like “I am blessed”, “I am strong”, “I have a balanced life”, “I am a beautiful creation of God”. Such affirmations have proved to be life changing for people. They are one of the best ways to develop a positive self-image .You may repeat them several times a day from the moment you wake up to the time you go to sleep.

8. Care for your body

Go for a walk. Exercise daily. Get the required hours of sleep. Follow a healthy (but not boring) diet. Caring for your body will keep you happy and you will picture yourself as a fit and healthy person. This creates a positive self-image that will last longer than you think.

9. Stop comparing yourself to others

– You are unique and separate entity in this world. Your accomplishments and failures are independent of those of others. There will always be someone better than you. You will always be better than some people. Your competition is with yourself and not with others. So focus on being a better version of yourself and not a reflection of others.

10. Pat yourself on the back

– Congratulate yourself for small achievements like completing an assignment on time or planning a birthday party perfectly. Celebrate the small stuff to increase your level of confidence. Let happiness flow in your life.

11. Bring out the benevolent in you

– Help others whenever you can without expecting anything in return. You have a kind and compassionate heart and you can empathize with people easily. Indulging in humanitarian tasks will give you a healthy self-image and you will like yourself more as you see yourself putting a smile on someone else’s face.

12. Indulge in self- praise

– There may be some instances in your life where you failed and couldn’t accomplish what you wanted to. Refrain from criticizing yourself for the failure and praise yourself for all the accomplishments, however big or small. List the things you like in yourself. Read and re-read them. Treat yourself kindly.

Love yourself

Avnie Garg is a student of Panjab University and has worked as a
journalist and website content writer. She has completed a bachelor’s
degree with honors in Psychology. Due to her deep understanding of
the subject, she was chosen as the President of Psychology Society
‘Manojigyasa’ in her college. She recognizes the importance of
psychology in building relationships, communicating effectively,
developing confidence and puts psychological principles to use in
everyday life. She likes to spend some part of her day in meditation and
firmly believes in the power of positive affirmations. 
E-mail: avnie.g@gmail.com

 

 

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10 Positive Psychology concepts that’ll give you a different perspective on life

 

Kritika Joshi, Freelance Contributor

Stay positive, all other choices are pointless punishments to your psyche”  – Joe Peterson

The “positive psychology” field has been around for decades, but only in the recent years, thanks to some notable researches have we been able to recognize its profound impact on society. Fortunately, many of these studies point to specific ways of thinking and acting that can strongly impact our sense of happiness and peace of mind.

So here are 10 Positive Psychology concepts that’ll give you a different perspective on life.

  1. ENVIRONMENTAL MASTERY

 

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It is the degree to which you feel competent to meet the demands of your situation. It is the sense that we have an influence on the events in our lives. We can say it is the sense that we are capable of acting on our own behalf. In simple terms, environmental mastery is the ability to create environment suitable to satisfy one’s own psychological needs.

  1. FLOURISHING

 

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The ability to flourish is defined as the ability for a person to grow as a human being through good times and through life struggles. Flourishing is the product of pursuit and engagement of an authentic life that brings inner joy and happiness. It is a state where people experience positive emotions, positive psychological functioning and positive social functioning most of the time.

 

  1. LEARNED OPTIMISM

 

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Coined by the famous positive psychologist Seligman, It is a mechanism where people systematically remove depressive thoughts by concentrating on the positive. Optimists have a belief that they have control over situations and because of this, the opportunity to influence the result they are highly motivated to achieve. It can be summed up as a pattern of persisting in the face of difficulty.

 

  1. FLOW

 

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The idea of flow is that “a person can make himself happy, or miserable, regardless of what is actually happening ‘outside’, just by changing the contents of consciousness. Happiness is about changing the contents of our consciousness and the way to do this is by putting ourselves in the state of optimal experience called flow. Flow is that state in which people are so involved in an activity that nothing else seems to matter.

 

  1. UNCONDITIONAL POSITIVE REGARD

 

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The concept of unconditional positive regard requires a person to suspend any form of personal judgement and accepts other human beings, regardless of the content of any disclosure they may have made or any behavior they may have displayed. It can help create better relationships with your spouse, friends, relatives and even strangers.

 

  1. CONGRUENCE

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Congruence is when the inner beliefs and concepts of a person match his experience of the external world. According to Carl Rogers, personality is like a triangle made up of ideal self, real self and perceived self. When there is a good fit between these three the person has congruence.

 

  1. CONDITIONS OF WORTH

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Conditions of Worth are the conditions we think we must meet in order for other people to accept us as worthy of their love or positive regard. Children raised in an environment of unconditional positive regard have the opportunity to fully actualize themselves. Those raised in an environment of conditional positive regard feel worthy only if they match conditions that have been laid down for them by others

 

  1. EUDAIMONIC WELL BEING

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Eudaimonic well being refers to effectiveness of an individual’s psychological functioning that helps them to realize their true potential. True happiness is found in expression of goodness. Eudaimonic  view of well being conceptualizes well being in terms of cultivation of personal strengths or acting in accordance with one’s inner nature and deeply held values.

 

  1. GOAL ORIENTATION

 

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It refers to the goals individuals implicitly pursue while attaining performance outcomes. It can be differentiated into two types – mastery and performance goals. Mastery goals involve learning and developing mastery as one approaches tasks. Performance goals involve approaching tasks with a focus on performance relative to others.

 

  1. TRANSCEDENCE

 

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It means ‘going beyond’ a prior state. It involves connection to something or someone larger than oneself, a theme that unites the character associated with it. In positive psychology, the virtue of transcendence is associated with the strengths of meaning that connects you with the larger world and helps you make sense of it.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

10 ways in which your dog is more than just your dog

by Pallavi Kandhari , freelance contributor  

 

Dogs are pretty awesome! In case you did not already know; here are ten reasons why. 

  1. Dog at home = More physical activity = Less stress!!

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  • Many studies show the importance of physical activity in decreasing stress. So just get your dog out and go out for a stroll and kick your stressful days goodbye!

 

  1. No loneliness = No stress = Fur Friend!!

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  • Nobody to listen to your cribbing at 3am? Your dog will always be there no matter what time it is, having your furry friend by you will never let you be lonely and consequently you wont stress over the temporary lack of companionship in your life

 

 

  1. Laughter is the best therapy!!

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  • The chances are he’ll be a a part of most of your day’s embarrassing moments, leading to a hilarious relationship between you and your pet.

 

  1. PAWSING for study breaks is no more regrettable!!

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  • Exams going on? Need a stress-free moment? Go ahead and take your buddy for a walk and his happiness would create the perfect stress-free break in between those long exhausting study hours.

 

  1. The only love that is unconditional.

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  • The amount of love you get from your dog is unconditional no matter what the world thinks about you. You can never feel “not-loved” if you have your dog with you! And when you realize you deserve to be loved, you will attract love from more channels.

 

  1. You always have something to look forward to when you come home!!

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  • Bad day at work? Boss made your day difficult? Had a fight? Come home and see your cute friend wagging his tail and removing all your STRESS!!!!

 

  1. Also regulates your STRESS-HORMONES!!!

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  • Petting/playing with your dog can decrease Cortisol (stress producing hormone) and increase levels of Oxytocin (stress reducing hormone). PLAY ALL DAY LONG!!!!

 

  1. They can be the best healers!!!

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  • Having a bad headache? Not feeling well? Cuddle up with your furry friend and see all the anxiety go, leading to a decrease in pain. NO PAIN=NO STRESS.

 

  1. Your buddy will make you popular among your peers and the not-so-easy-to-please neighbors.

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  • Anxious around peers and neighbors when alone with them? Take your buddy and see the amount of attention you will attract… Your social circle will increase, you will get freedom from the fear of your anxiety levels rising when your furry friend is around.

 

  1. Cuddling with your fur-ball before sleeping!!

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  • What can be better than having a de-stressor right beside you after the hectic day. So just cuddle up and have a STRESS-FREE sleep.

 

So you still don’t want to adopt me???

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